Representations of motherhood on social media: The stress of unrealistic perfectionism


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Çelik Özkan G.

AGATHOS: An International Review of the Humanities and Social Sciences, cilt.16, sa.2, ss.635-646, 2025 (ESCI)

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This article examines the ways in which motherhood identities are

constructed on social media. With the increasing digitalization, individuals

present their selves and social roles on social media platforms. In this

process, which can be analyzed within the framework of Goffman‟s

dramaturgical approach, individuals construct identities by performing

idealized roles on a specific “stage” in accordance with the expectations of

their audience. Motherhood is also influenced by this process and is

represented in various forms on social media, bringing different motherhood

typologies to the forefront. The article defines the motherhood identities such

as tiger mom, alpha mom and wine mom in the literature, in additional to

them beige mom identity, which is increasingly widespread in social media.

The tiger mom prioritizes childrențs academic success with a strict and

demanding parenting style. The alpha mom strives for success in both her

child‟s and her own life, often pursuing unattainable perfection. The wine

mom adopts a humorous, sarcastic approach to the struggles of motherhood

but risks normalizing alcohol consumption. The beige mom, characterized by

minimalism, natural living, and neutral-toned aesthetics, promotes a specific

parenting ideal but may impose rigid lifestyle expectations. Each model

presents unique challenges for mothers, children, and families. This study has

established a theoretical framework by reviewing academic sources indexed

in the Web of Science database between 2020-2025, while also incorporating

an analysis of the beige mom identity, which has not yet been academically

examined in the context of social media. The aim of this article is to analyze

how motherhood identities are constructed on social media, how they are

shaped by societal expectations, and the impact these representations have on

women. The findings highlight that the romanticization of motherhood and

its portrayal within rigid frameworks on social media may create pressure on

mothers and reinforce traditional gender norms.